One of the things I appreciate about life is the ability to grow and change. When I started this blog I chose a name based on where I was at that time. ‘Survival of a Domestic Goddess’. I’m not quite sure how much of the goddess part was true, but the survival part was spot on. I was a mom of two very young boys. I was beginning therapy and a mental health journey that will be a lifelong one. I was beginning to catch glimpses of who I was and who I wanted to be. Ironically my biggest fear of motherhood was losing myself, when in reality it was the thing that truly helped me find myself. I’ve posted here and there over the past 4 years. I began this blog because writing is my passion. I love words, stories, ideas, sharing thoughts. I’ve made a pact with myself to begin writing again. If it does nothing other than spark joy within me, I’m okay with that.
The name of the blog no longer fit me. As you’ve most likely noticed I’ve change the name of both my blog and my domain. One that more accurately represents where I am now and moving forward. Being a mother has been the biggest blessing and change in my life. It’s only fitting I slip the word mom in there. Something I’ve said to other moms, and reminded myself of, is that no one is handing out trophies for this shit. They aren’t. I checked to be sure. Epidural? C-section? Natural birth? Not one of us walked out of the hospital with a trophy. There aren’t always accolades in life and that’s okay. We make the best choices we can. We learn. We grow. No matter where you are in life the thought that no one is handing out trophies for this shit applies. Went to college? Didn’t go to college? Talk to your parents? Don’t speak with them? Have a dog? Have kids instead? Run marathons? Only run your mouth? You get the idea.
I am proud to be a trophyless mom. I’m okay with not getting awards for handling my own shit. The reward is my family. My mental health being okay. Feeling spiritually and physically good. Whatever choices we make in life are ours alone. They aren’t for anyone else’s joy or happiness. My posts will be ones of my journey and perspective. Thoughts or ideas. Things that hopefully you’ll comment on and teach me something new. I’m hoping to start a discussion about things that we all may face at some point. Or maybe just offer a perspective on something you may never personally experience. My musings if you will. See what I did there? I sincerely hope you enjoy the musings of this Trophyless mom.
Whether you’re new here or have been along for the ride, I thank you!
Dana
Musings of a Trophyless Mom 